Do you ever feel that no matter what you do to try to get back together with your boyfriend, it just doesn't work? You sometimes think that you actually might be driving your boyfriend further away from you instead of bringing him back into your life? If you're wondering what steps you can take to get your boyfriend back, here are some tips that may help.
Chances are that if you're reading this article, you're serious about getting your boyfriend back and keeping him. However, you might be your own worst enemy! In other words, you might be behaving in a way that is actually driving your boyfriend away from you and not bringing you closer together. You're probably not even doing this intentionally, but unfortunately the result is the same. And if this behavioral pattern continues, you will continue to spin out of control and your boyfriend will continue to move further away from you.
For example, are you calling your ex too much, texting him incessantly or even worse- cyber stalking him? Are you trying to appeal to his sense of sympathy and making him feel sorry for you? If you're asking yourself "What can I do to get my boyfriend back?" and what you're doing now is not working, then you need to stop what you're doing completely.
So exactly what can you do to get your boyfriend back? Try this strategy instead.
If what you're doing now has not worked for you, then you need to step back and take a completely different approach. First, you need to break off contact for a while and focus on you. And when I say break off communication, I mean everything- no texting, calling or cyberstalking! Use this time to focus on you: pick a new hobby, talk to an old girlfriend, do something to get out of the house. I'm not saying that this is going to be easy- as a matter of fact, this is probably the hardest that there is in this strategy. But it is absolutely necessary if you're going to get your boyfriend back and keep him.
From your ex's point of view, he will begin to experience a shift from not being pursued anymore. Let's face it, if you've been calling your boyfriend every day ten times per day (or texting) and you suddenly stop, he's going to be wondering what happened and what you're doing. And this is exactly what you want him thinking about. As a matter of fact, this may actually be the first time that your ex misses you because you're not constantly calling him or texting.
Now remember, the whole key to making this work is sticking to your guns and not caving in wen your ex calls or texts you. And the psychology that you're bringing into play is something that been used countless times in relationships- the fear of loss. We as human beings will fight longer and harder to keep something that we have than to get something in the first place. But if you're constantly calling or keeping in contact, you're not giving him the chance to miss or feel at all like he doesn't have you in hi life anymore.
Once you execute this strategy you can begin to restore the balance in the relationship and subtly remind your ex why he loved you in the first place.
Remember, keep yourself grounded and try not to smother him. Creating this space between you and your ex will give him a chance to miss you- you might even come across as mysterious. Give him an opportunity to make the first move and you will come out on top. And then you'll be able to stop asking "what can I do to get my boyfriend back" because at that point, he'll be back!
Chances are that if you're reading this article, you're serious about getting your boyfriend back and keeping him. However, you might be your own worst enemy! In other words, you might be behaving in a way that is actually driving your boyfriend away from you and not bringing you closer together. You're probably not even doing this intentionally, but unfortunately the result is the same. And if this behavioral pattern continues, you will continue to spin out of control and your boyfriend will continue to move further away from you.
For example, are you calling your ex too much, texting him incessantly or even worse- cyber stalking him? Are you trying to appeal to his sense of sympathy and making him feel sorry for you? If you're asking yourself "What can I do to get my boyfriend back?" and what you're doing now is not working, then you need to stop what you're doing completely.
So exactly what can you do to get your boyfriend back? Try this strategy instead.
If what you're doing now has not worked for you, then you need to step back and take a completely different approach. First, you need to break off contact for a while and focus on you. And when I say break off communication, I mean everything- no texting, calling or cyberstalking! Use this time to focus on you: pick a new hobby, talk to an old girlfriend, do something to get out of the house. I'm not saying that this is going to be easy- as a matter of fact, this is probably the hardest that there is in this strategy. But it is absolutely necessary if you're going to get your boyfriend back and keep him.
From your ex's point of view, he will begin to experience a shift from not being pursued anymore. Let's face it, if you've been calling your boyfriend every day ten times per day (or texting) and you suddenly stop, he's going to be wondering what happened and what you're doing. And this is exactly what you want him thinking about. As a matter of fact, this may actually be the first time that your ex misses you because you're not constantly calling him or texting.
Now remember, the whole key to making this work is sticking to your guns and not caving in wen your ex calls or texts you. And the psychology that you're bringing into play is something that been used countless times in relationships- the fear of loss. We as human beings will fight longer and harder to keep something that we have than to get something in the first place. But if you're constantly calling or keeping in contact, you're not giving him the chance to miss or feel at all like he doesn't have you in hi life anymore.
Once you execute this strategy you can begin to restore the balance in the relationship and subtly remind your ex why he loved you in the first place.
Remember, keep yourself grounded and try not to smother him. Creating this space between you and your ex will give him a chance to miss you- you might even come across as mysterious. Give him an opportunity to make the first move and you will come out on top. And then you'll be able to stop asking "what can I do to get my boyfriend back" because at that point, he'll be back!
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